You often hear women say their children
are their greatest achievement.
The singular thing that changed their lives
more than any other thing or event.
I began noticing people wearing these discs
with finger prints and these huge rings around their necks
with their children’s names on them.
They looked a little (a lot) like dog tags to me,
and quite the oppose of the delicate and beautiful creation,
a child is; but they planted the seed of an idea.
I began to feel into of a way of celebrating
this deep connection in a more elegant and subtle way.
So Motherlove began to take germinate . . .
The idea of a stone that could be passed
from mother to child,
that would hold the mother’s energy
and be a reminder of their connection began to form.
Then it developed into the idea, that the mother would wear two stones
and keep one of them as a beautiful symbol of the child
when they were no longer physically there.
This felt so comforting to me.
The concept of birthstones is a lovely expansion on this idea,
as each one has a different meaning;
and we are nothing if not all different.
I also felt it was important that the stones
would be as unique as each child and mother.
I spend days each time I go to India choosing the gemstones
and continue to marvel at how different each one is.
I love the variety of cuts, shapes, colours and beauty of each one.
There are a lot of wows!!!!
as I hold them up to the light and examine them.
It’s like each one contains a whole world of stories
just like the people who will wear them.
No two are ever the same
(look at this small selection of aquamarines).
Then of course there’s the scale and practical aspects of wearing jewellery,
how would multiple stones look and fall when worn together,
for say a woman with 3 or four children
and how would the colours work together, and the list goes on . . .
The design process is of course another world.
There you are busy scribbling, sketching and working it all out
but you have no idea how it will be received
when you release it into the world.
So far I have had people clutch their heart and cry
when they hear about the Motherlove concept
or received their necklace.
Many tell me how they find themselves touching the stones
throughout the day reminding them of their precious family,
how their children keep asking ‘Which one is me?’
One lady recounted how it popped into her mind,
a moment before she was about to yell at her kids;
and (that time) she didn’t.
She said she realized she was frustrated because
they were just ambling along (as kids do)
when she was in a hurry to get something else done.
She said it made her stop and do I really need to hurry just now?
What has surprised me most are the creative versions people keep asking for.
One wanted to include the grandparents
because her daughter asked why they weren’t there,
one sadly for a baby who had died.
The most popular has been a stone for each member of the family.
It seems it’s not just Motherlove but family love
and father’s keep asking me what about one for men.
Watch this space.
I’ve begun to imagine what that might look like . . .